Here’s a question for you: think about how many times you miss great opportunities in your life because you’re saying no to new adventures. How often does this happen to you?
On the other hand, ask yourself: are you saying yes too often, where those things aren’t priorities for you? Are you getting bogged down with things you don’t really need or want?
Many of the skills to manage saying yes and saying no come from the personality trait of openness. As well, your openness measures how often you try new things and experiences, compared to holding on to old ways.
To help you manage your openness, I have two quick videos linked here in the article, be sure to check them out.
So why should you manage your openness? Being in either extreme of openness can be dangerous: If you aren’t open enough, you may be missing out on a lot of joy in your life. In the opposite case, if you’re too open, you’re at risk of harm because of unwise choices.
Let’s start with what openness is and who open-minded people are. Open-minded people are curious about new things and seeking innovation. They are willing to be part of new adventures, experiences, and creative endeavors. Meanwhile, individuals with a low level of openness don’t like trying new things. So if you’re reading this because you are scoring low in openness, you need to bring that up a little bit for a few different reasons.
Learning how to manage openness and having enough of it in your life is fundamental for your peace, mental wellbeing, and longevity. Being open enough can make you happier, healthier, and more satisfied in the long run. When you’re too shut out from new experiences, you’re not engaged in life, and not able to fully enjoy life. When you’re living in your own space all the time and not welcoming any other possibilities, how can you have fun!? Make the choice: when fun, joy, and happiness knock on your door again, let them in.
When you’re open enough, your friends, colleagues, and partner will enjoy being with you and engaging with you, much more than if you aren’t open. Because they know it’s fun to be with you, and you don’t keep closing yourself down by saying, “No, that’s not my thing.” Yes, you can easily be that fun person! Nobody’s expecting you to go to any extremes.
On the other hand, if you are too open, I’ll ask you to reel it back a little so you’re not engaging in risky behaviors. As well, don’t start too many new things at the same time. I want you to maintain a balance: where you are open enough to new experiences, yet still respect your health, body, and natural boundaries. The most important thing here is maintaining balance over time and knowing how to manage your openness well.
So, what would your answer be if someone asks you to try a new thing right now? Yes or no? If you are saying NO to everything and not trying any new experiences, here is the question: WHY? Take a moment to think about it deeply, and try to understand your reasons.
If you were hurt before or carrying any psychological injury or trauma, you might want to take a look at it and do some constructive work on it. Just acknowledge, all of it is in the past, and the new outcome you can have is totally up to you. Then, with the right guidance, you can let that stuff go and be more open and engaged in life.
To measure where you are in openness, review the questions above and see what your first self-assessment is. Then, take a respected personality test to get more objective feedback(I suggest this open-source one).
I know the first steps are the hardest ones, yet for your enduring success, it’s worth it. Perhaps it’s time to turn your face anew to the world and open yourself up to new things. There is joy, fun, excitement, love, and good adventure out there, all waiting for you to receive them.
Or perhaps it’s time to balance your wild openness with just a bit of rationality. That can do wonders for your groundedness, focus, and accomplishments.
Either way, get started on your new journey. Be ready for the next chapter of your life!
Yes, it might sound like a long process, but actually, you will get results quite quickly when you have the right support. It’s totally ok to get some help where you need it. Just get in touch and ask any questions you might have.
Maybe, this is the first step you need to take to make the most of your life. Trust me; you’re worth it.
Wishing you all the best.